Forgiveness

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What exactly is forgiveness?

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. ...Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.

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Why is it a good thing to forgive someone?

Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness. When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward... These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance.

Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack, improving cholesterol levels and sleep, reducing pain, blood pressure, and levels of anxiety, deep sadness and stress.

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Why do you forgive someone?

Forgiveness requires feeling willing to forgive. Sometimes you won't, because the hurt went too deep, or because the person was too abusive, or expressed no regret. Do not attempt to forgive someone before you have identified, fully felt, expressed, and released your anger and pain.

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let hypnosis help you forgive today

Learning to forgive can feel like one of life’s harder lessons. So many seemingly-logical objections arise such as "why should I, after what they did to me?"

However, long lasting bitterness, resentment and hate is so damaging, not only to your enjoyment of life, but to your health. Bitterness chews you up inside and spoils your time on this Earth.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean tolerating or excusing the bad that was done. But the shock, even horror of what happened needs to register only for a while. After that you need to move on from it for your own peace of mind.

Don't let resentment color all of life

The worst kind of bitterness is when a person is treated badly by one person but then starts to resent all people. This kind of negative over-generalizing is called ‘globalizing’ and you need to be aware that you don’t start to unfairly ‘tar everyone with the same brush'.

And as for thoughts of revenge there is a wonderful old saying: ‘Do unto others what is worthy of you, not what is worthy of them'. This encourages us to treat people in accordance with our own values and character regardless of what they have done.

Imagine when you can think about the events in question and feel calm and even indifferent. What a relief! How much more space you’ll have in your mind and life. When you truly forgive and move on you can put the past behind you and get on with life.

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Here are some ideas about how hypnosis may help you:

1. Become clear on your morals and values as they are right now.

2. Realize that the past is the past.

3. Create a “re-do.” ...

4. Realize you did the best you could at the time. ...

5. Start acting in accordance with your morals and values.

6. Identify your biggest regrets.

And many more...

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